With some gymnasts still needing to qualify for States, there can be some pretty big pressure in the gym right now. Even if your gymnast has already qualified, there's the pressure of having to get better and compete well when her state meet finally arrives. And that pressure only continues as some gymnasts qualify for even bigger meets.

 5 Things You Can Do To Help Your Gymnast Manage Pressure Before A Big Meet

 

While a state (or regional or national) meet is a pretty big deal to many gyms, it's important that our gymnasts are shielded from feeling the extra pressure of having to perform their best at this one single meet.

When your gymnast puts extra pressure on herself or feels the pressure from her coach or parents, her brain will often respond in a negative way. Things like mental blocks coming back, the shutting down of skills that were once performed confidently, making uncharacteristic mistakes at meets or in the gym, or just underperforming are all common consequences when your gymnast's brain is under pressure.

First of all, let's just say that despite how it may feel a state meet is, at its root, just another meet that your gymnast is competing in.

But just as the Olympics feels like a very different competition than other meets because of the climate surrounding it, so too can her State meet feel like something really big.

It's important, then, to make sure your gymnast knows how to handle this big pressure or, at the very least, is feeling no unnecessary pressure from you as her parent.

 

Here are 5 things you can do to help your gymnast manage pressure before a big meet:

1. Don't put any extra pressure on her yourself.

This one is quite obvious but sometimes we, as parents, get caught up in the culture of it all and want our gymnast to do well at State. So we might start turning up the heat unknowingly in the weeks leading up to her big meet.

We might be kicking in with reminders of what her coaches are telling her.

We might be encouraging her to do her mental training.

Or we might be feeling anxious ourselves which can contribute to your gymnast feeling extra anxious too.

So it's important to do a gut check on yourself to see what your feelings are towards this big meet. And then find ways to minimize that stress for yourself so you aren't projecting it onto your gymnast.

 

2. Help your gymnast manage other stressors in her life.

Is school really stressful for your gymnast right now? Does she have very little down time? Is she barely sleeping?

If any of these are the case, find ways to help your gymnast manage her school work and extracurriculars better.

Could she benefit from a day off from school or the gym to recharge every once in a while? If so, help her get this day.

Is her workload really too much for her at school? If so, reach out to her guidance counselor, get her a tutor, or ask her teachers if there's any way to ease up on the homework, tests, or assignments in the next few weeks.

Always remember that the stress she is feeling outside of the gym gets carried with her. So it's important to evaluate all aspects of her life, not just gymnastics.

 

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3. Help her set realistic expectations for her State meet.

Often gymnasts will set these big goals for their state meets that might not be within their reach just yet. It's more realistic for a gymnast to say "I'll do my best" than "I'm going to win States." 

It's not that your gymnast can't and shouldn't have big goals. But if she's been barely making it onto the podium, then her goals should be more realistic when she gets to State than wanting to win the entire competition.

On the flip side, it's ok to encourage your gymnast to dream a little if her expectations are really low. If she's imagining herself coming in last place or is feeling like she doesn't have the capability to place in the top ten when you know she's capable of that, then remind her that setting goals just outside her comfort zone is ok too.

If your gymnast's goals are unrealistic, this can put extra pressure on her brain to perform well or actually de-motivate her brain in the case of setting really low goals.

 

4. Remind her that this is just one meet.

Many gymnasts fall into the trap of believing that this is the most important meet of their lives. Help remind her that this is just one more meet that she's competing in. And that while it may feel different because the stakes might be higher, it's no different than going to any other meet. 

As is the case with every meet, it's one opportunity for your gymnast to show off what she's been working hard on in the gym. And sometimes she's successful in putting it all together when it counts, and other times she might not be so successful.

Remind her that she spends countless hours in the gym for only a few minutes of actual competition each season. So it's important to focus on the effort she's put into her journey in practice and not to get pulled into thinking that if she doesn't perform well at that one meet, she isn't a good gymnast.

 

5. Make it clear that no matter what happens at her State meet, you'll love her still the same.

Some gymnasts feel that their performance is a reflection of how much love they deserve or will receive. If they underperform they might feel like they are loved less.

And while it sounds silly, it's incredibly common that gymnasts wrap their self-worth up into how successful they are as gymnasts. So when they don't perform well, it's more than just mourning a bad performance. It's mourning a sense of love that they no longer feel they deserve.

Remember the famous quote from Simone Biles after the Tokyo Games when the United States won silver? "I hope America still loves us!"

Simone was caught up so much in how good she would perform that when she couldn't perform at the Games at all, she didn't feel worthy of being loved as a person, let alone as a gymnast. Let's not make our own gymnasts feel that same way.

So be sure to emphasize to your gymnast that you love her for being HER and not for being a gymnast. And that win or lose, you will ALWAYS love her as much as is humanly possible.

 5 Ways To Help Your Gymnast Manage Pressure In Gymnastics

In sum, while a state meet might feel really big to your gymnast, it's important that she doesn't feel extra pressure going into this meet. Gyms will naturally build up these meets and make them feel really important which can make your gymnast feel more nervous about competing. Make sure you are not putting any extra pressure on your gymnast yourself. Help your gymnast manage other stressors that might be going on in her life outside of gym. Also help your gymnast set realistic expectations for her meet so she isn't carrying the weight of a really big goal or demotivated by a really small one. Always remind your gymnast that this meet only measures her performance on one day of her career but that she has hours and hours in the gym to show for her hard work. Finally, let your gymnast know that win or lose you will ALWAYS love her for who she is as a person, not for what she can do in gymnastics.

 

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If you or your gymnast needs support, in addition to the resources below I also offer one-on-one coaching sessions via Zoom.

 

Gymnastics Mental Blocks Guidebook for Parents

 

Helpful Links:

 

 

Gymnastics Mental Coach Anna Kojac, M.Ed.

 

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